My name is Alee. Graduate student starting in January 2014. Studying Middle and Secondary Education with a concentration in Language Arts/English. Legal drinking age + 1. Marine fiancée. Getting married in September 2014. (Im)patiently awaiting the next time I'll see my soulmate. :)
im dying of period cramps on the sofa and i heard someone in the kitchen and assumed it was my mom so i yelled I CAN FEEL MY UTERUS PULSING HELP and my dad came into the room with the most horrified expression on his face
It sickens me to read the comments on this video and see all the people who don’t believe that this is how things are.
Because let me tell you, this is accurate. Powerful men are assumed to be strong, intelligent leaders, while powerful women are seen as bossy and mean. Furthermore, successful men are assumed to have achieved their success through ability, while successful women are just seen as lucky.
There is such a double standard and I’m so upset about how many people don’t realize that it exists
(props to the company for using this as their ad though, I’m impressed that they did that, and it’s really important to point out)
just gonna leave these here for you guys who are getting pissy over my ‘white privilege’ post
Now, I’m not all anti-social justice, but you certainly can’t ignore these facts.
But let’s take a guess as to why women generally are prohibited from serving on the front lines in warzones, and why they are discouraged from working in the industrial sector? Patriarchal expectations of appropriate roles for men and women based on gender.
Who commits the majority of homicides? Men.
Why are men more likely to commit suicide instead of seeking help for their problems? It’s those pesky patriarchal gender roles again, equating emotions with femininity and therefore weakness, which discourages men from talking about their problems.
As for the custody thing, the majority of custody decisions are agreements made between both parents, which again, are probably overdetermined by patriarchal assumptions about gender that paint women as being more nurturing and therefore better parents than men.
So, although the person who made this clearly wanted to argue that male privilege doesn’t exist, what they actually did was make a pretty good graphic illustrating the ways in which patriarchal expectations and structures within a society hurt men as well as women, which, since feminism is actually aimed at dismantling the patriarchy is why men also need feminism.
During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How did you know?” “Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind.” replied the author.
Here’s the answer:
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.
People in love sometimes say, I was swept of my feet. Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this)
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: the universe determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go!